New head shots coming at ya!! It’s been a while since I’ve had any photos of myself taken. The sweetest lil lady, Cami Wade, took all these and did an amazing job! Thanks, Cami!
I don’t do personal posts much, and this really isn’t going to be but you will see a lot of my face and my view point on some business topics. I jumped on the “ask me a question” post on IG and received 3 LOL! But out of those 3 (one was a silly one from my cousin haha), 2 really great questions about business. I wanted to write a little more about them here, since I private messaged the person who asked and thought maybe someone else would like to know my thoughts on these topics…
The comparison game- how to avoid it?
First of all- no one is you. You have something to offer that is special to you. So knowing your brand and what you stand for helps a lot. You should be inspired by others, not wanting to be just like them. It is hard and takes time to wrap your mind around, but if you are aware of it then that’s the first start. I know when I first started in with flowers as my job, I bought a brick and mortar shop and just three blocks away is another flower shop so, of course, it was hard not to compare. But I think this really helped me know for certain what I wanted my business to be and help me wrap my mind around…well it’s ok because this is/isn’t what I have set for my business. You make the rules, don’t forget that!
*Social media is a whole other game though! I dealt with the comparison in real life from the get go, so knew once I started my wedding floral design business (which most of that is IG) I really needed to keep my head down and focus on what I wanted for my business. I love IG, don’t get me wrong but I’m just not a huge social media person. It doesn’t play a large role in my life, so that helps me not compare what I’m doing with others. For real here, I love so many of the other florists that some would consider ‘competition’ but I look at them as people and they are amazing people who just have a similar job as I do. I think a lot of it has to do with mindset. It takes time to realize things and get in a clear head space…so give yourself some space to breathe and if you find yourself getting down because this other person is doing this or that just take a break from it and go back to focusing on your business.
The one woman show- does it get lonely?
At times, of course but even before I owned my own business times could be lonely. Now it’s more intense because I make every single decision pretty much on my own. I think the lonely has changed into a more second guessing myself (like is this the right thing to do?!). But that’s when a business coach comes in. I’m into my sixth year of this and I’ve worked with a business coach every year. I say business coach (and some really are), but it could be a mentor or a one on one consult…they are called all different things. But the base of it is talking it out with someone else who understands and it needs to be someone who has an open, honest point of view. I know it’s tough to sometimes hear certain things, but it’s necessary. You are the only one with these ideas, thoughts, business strategies…you need another opinion that’s not your family/friends. For example, a few years ago I worked with a coach for 3 months, payed a little more than I wanted but she said ONE sentence for that entire time that shifted my thought process and in turn one whole area of my business. So take some time, write out your issues and find someone to talk with about it. And not to get all sappy, but always remember you are really never alone and life is more than the business you own.
A little side note from this topic…it is possible to make a successful business on your own. I know, at first, you might not have extra money to spend on business coaching which is fine – you can still do it, if you want it badly enough. When I first started in the flower business (I bought a brick & mortar shop) and from that grew a wedding floral design business all by myself. I did not have a husband, parent, or anyone really help out a lot. Yes, I had some help don’t get me wrong…but for the most part, it was me day in and day out. I don’t say this to ‘toot my own horn’, I say this to let you know it is possible if you want to work for it. I know sometimes I would get discouraged because I know a lot of other ‘creative’ business owners have their husband as a fall back. I didn’t have that and I still don’t which doesn’t mean I’m better or worse off…just means we can do things on our own, if that is what we choose to do. But I do say this with warning! We all need help from other’s and should not be afraid to ask for help. This is 100% one of my flaws- not asking for help. So I say from experience, you can do it on your own but be aware of your limits…this kind of ties into the first question of being lonely- we do need others. That is something my very independent self wishes I would have started to work on sooner, but even six years in we have to keep pushing forward and doing the best we can. You have a cheerleader in me always! If you have any other questions you’d like to know just email me. I’m happy to help anyway I can!